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This is an extremely controversial book! It pushes a lot of hot-buttons that people have, triggers a LOT of fears, jealousies, and past memories. A reader will have either an extremely favorable or an extremely defensive response, because of how explosive this subject matter is and based on their own past experiences. If you like 'nice' books, do NOT purchase this one.
No book has ever been written on infidelity from the FIRST-HAND experience of a serial adulterer, until now!
I STEAL WIVES is the only book to ever address, from an insider's perspective, the single most EXPLOSIVE yet least talked-about issue crippling relationships in America today: Why women cheat, and why it is happening far more than anyone wants to admit, or even realizes...also why women don't want to talk about it and why men are terrified to even think about it. Research now shows that female infidelity is on the rise, rivaling that of men.
It's not just a book of killer, salacious stories, I STEAL WIVES also delivers proven marital advice and penetrating insights, because the serial adulterer is also an individual and relationship counselor and former pastor.
Over a 25-year period, as Mr. Erlandson had sexual and/or emotional affairs with the wives and girlfriends of over 25 men (and a few women), he began to see patterns in their behaviors. But, far more importantly, he began to recognize patterns in the underlying thoughts and core beliefs that drive and determine behaviors....stuff no one knew about. These hidden patterns turned into powerfully effective principles for changing people's lives and relationships, which he incorporated into his spiritual counseling practice to enormous success.
This highly provocative book is the relationship version of: "How to Secure Your House...as told from the experienced perspective of a professional burglar," exploring such topics as:
- The bigger the diamond, the more likely she'll cheat;
- If she cheated once, she will cheat again, unless the core issue is addressed, and it rarely is!
- What kind of husband do you have...and will he drive you to cheat, even though it's still your own fault you cheated;
- Wives are generally more sexually twisted than husbands!
- And more!
Nearly all relationship books focus on changing behaviors, which temporarily fixes the symptoms but rarely cures the real problems. I STEAL WIVES dives into the core beliefs that drive the behaviors, which is the only real hope for lasting change.
He now offers those stories and principles to the male reader as a way to understand what's really going on with your wife or girlfriend, because what most men read in magazines or hear on TV or from therapists...isn't the truth! There's a reason most men hate going to therapists, and Mr. Erlandson gets it. Brilliantly written, I STEAL WIVES is the first book on relationships ever written for men, in male voice, with guy stories, that doesn't treat men like relationship idiots or imply that how they think and feel is childlike or malformed - 'woman good, man dumb.'
But what is most fascinating about I STEAL WIVES is that women love it even more than men! Women not only find the 'guy talk' refreshing (as compared to the stale language of most self-help books) but are realizing how much they didn't understand...about themselves.
Imagine sitting at a bar, 3 beers down, talking relationships with the coolest therapist, who is former SERE-trained military and a former NCAA head strength coach, a former emergency room chaplain, who swears (a LOT!), laughs, and tells salty-as-hell stories, but whom you respect tons because he nails you between the eyes with his powerful insights and advice.
That guy is Sven. This book is his 3-beers conversation with you.